As Mike’s discharge nears, I know we will enter a new phase. Until now, weekends have been a welcomed retreat from hospital life. We lounge around and though we often have a few items on the agenda, we do not have a demanding schedule. However, being at home “for good” will probably bring up issues for us to wade through.
Before the accident, Mike was living on his own but will now be living at home. That alone can bring up challenges in relationships. When you’ve been independent but now have to rely on others for some of your basic needs, it can be difficult and depressing. What should be my role as a mom? My natural tendency in the past few months has been to look after Mike but I have to be careful not to create a dependency. I have to find that balance of helping to provide a safe comfort zone and yet still continue to prod and push one out of the nest. Many of these things we have talked about, trying to anticipate those hurdles but we will learn as we go! One positive thing about this experience is that we, as a family, have always been able to talk openly about our feelings. (Hmm…I’m even talking about it online!)
Just one more of the challenges to come!